Of course there’s the infamous Orgy Dome. Sex parties come in many different shapes, sizes, and forms. And, if nothing else, accepting and giving rejection is super good for character-building, she says.ĩ. “They’ll actually say, ‘Can we join you? Or ‘Are you guys looking for company?’ and they take rejection really surprisingly well.” So at a sex party, being prepared both to reject an offer and to be rejected is key.
“They’re not going to come up and just dive right in,’ Dr. Also just like IRL (or, you know, on an app), rejection happens to everyone. “Isn’t that insane? Even in a tent where people are like having sex in public, it’s still actually a little hard to meet people,” Benson jokes.Ĩ.
And this is no different at the Orgy Dome, according to Aly. Yep, even at a party that’s about “sex,” it isn’t any easier to go up to someone you might find attractive or sexually appealing, and ask them to get with you. Approaching potential partners at a sex party can be just as hard as dating IRL. “Most people were in their group, you know, their threesome or sixsome or whatever the heck they were doing.”ħ. Would you mind if my boyfriend and I came over?’ You could do that but nobody was actually doing that,” Aly says. “You technically could go around and say, ‘hey,’ like, ‘I really like your vibe over here. This rang true for Aly during her time in the Orgy Dome. Instead, those who hook up at these events frequently know each other and even arrived together. Put away the image you have of sex parties as a place where everyone is hooking up with everyone, because it’s not always like that.
A lot of the sex happening at these parties is between the people you come with. Auteri says she couldn’t deny the “erotic energy” and “sexy atmosphere” of a different sex party.Ħ. Other parties can definitely give off sensual vibes. Not to mention that the idea of group sex doesn’t excite everyone. So, picture desert-induced dryness (yes, even down there), ingrown hairs from shaving in camp ground showers, and tons of waiting in a long line to get in (which Aly so hilariously compared to the DMV). After all, the Orgy Dome is an event that's part of the larger Burning Man festival. In fact, Aly found the vibe at the Orgy Dome to be far from it. So, no, “you can’t just be a lurker,” Drucker jokes.ĥ. Some parties rule that single men can’t attend if they’re not part of a couple, says Auteri, and others, like the Orgy Dome, expect that all attendees participate on some level. There are actually a lot of “unspoken don’ts.” Beyond consent, the rules get a little more specific for each event. And, above all, Auteri emphasizes, “You always have that power to say ‘no’ when you want to,” and so do the other attendees who “aren’t solely there to fulfill your sexual fantasies.”Ģ. Getting consent before each and every sex act is crucial.
While the term "sex party" might make you think of a wild, disorganized orgy, that doesn’t mean that every partygoer intends on having sex with every attendee. 1 rule is consent, as it should be in every sexual situation. The guests get real about what goes down at these events and reveal the top things you need to know before you RSVP to a play party.ġ. Jess O’Reilly and Burning Man veteran Aly*. On the Cosmo Happy Hour podcast, social media editor Elisa Benson digs deeper into the mysterious world of sex parties with senior sex and relationships editor Ali Drucker, comedian Kate Willett, writer Steph Auteri, relationship expert Dr.